I once had to apologize to the audience when I forgot my lyrics –Darey Art Alade
Nigerian superstar singer, Darey Art Alade is Nigeria’s king of
R&B still standing despite all odds. He’s the last son of Art Alade,
a famous Nigerian highlife / jazz artiste and broadcaster in the
sixties and seventies.
His journey to stardom began when he was a teenager during which he
was invited to join Cool FM where he worked as a presenter for some
years. In 2004, he participated in the reality TV show, Project Fame
Africa and subsequently hosted the show when it debuted in West Africa.
In this interview, Darey reflected on his childhood ,music, family and
other issues.
Your album is titled Naked. Why?
Why? Why not?
I saw all those nude images you posted on twitter. What was it all about?
I was not naked. Was I naked? (Laughs).Those images are metaphors to
represent the real essence of the album. It’s about being vulnerable
and I needed to show my vulnerability. Taking a picture like that, I
would never think I will do that in a thousand years. It’s not something
I would do ordinarily. So, to do it meant having to expose myself and
if you want to talk about being naked, it’s not in the sense of
physical nakedness but we are rather talking about emotional
vulnerability. How do you illustrate that? It’s impossible without
such an image, of course, and it’s not obscene. It wasn’t about showing
my genitalia and it was tastefully done. It’s an artistic expression
which comes with a proviso so to speak. It’s not by itself. We have two
different pictures and the hash tag is Darey naked to promote the album
and we also had a quote, a different picture that had a quote, talking
about you know, stripping yourself bare of any pretence or anything,
any insecurity and sharing your story. The idea is to post that picture
and share something about you that people do not know or you would not
want to tell people normally.
Among the things you shared, you said you went to your old home. Could you tell us more about that?
I have lived in different parts of Lagos and I went to a few of them, not all of them.
There was one particular one you said the guy living
there now welcomed you and the television had changed. So, what were
your memories of that place?
Different memories. You know from the way your older siblings treated
you to the way maybe you guys ate dinner. You know different memories
of the house, like the smell of the house and some other things like
that. All these things change over time and, of course, your experience
as a child would be different from your experience as an adult going
back to where you played or lived as a child. So, it’s about reminiscing
and also just sharing, you know? I think people find it interesting
when it’s not only about the music, they get to know you and you connect
deeper to your fans that way.
What’s the inspiration, meaning or motive behind your song, Inside of me in the album?
The title is suggestive but we are not talking about anything more
than love. It’s just about love, so it’s inside of you and the
inspiration I mean is just to make a nice love song that mature adults
can enjoy, that anybody can listen to .We wanted a meaningful love
song, the type you will feel, an authentic heart-felt lyric not just
let’s put some words together or let’s finish the song quickly. It was
deliberately written, arranged and made that way.
You did the song with Asa. What was it like working with her?
I have been friends with Asa for some time and she is like my sister.
Asa and I have been close friends for many years but it was actually
the first time we worked together. So, for me it was very special and I
know it was special for her too.
How long did it take you to compose that song?
It took a couple of days but the album took about six months to finish.
People say “Darey is the John Legend of Nigeria”. What’s your take about that?
It’s an honour to be compared to someone like that. I have met him
before and he is a really cool guy whose music I like. He has won
Grammies, he has made so many hits and we both play the piano. Those are
some of our similarities. However, I do not think my voice sounds like
his voice.
Which famous musician inspires you?
Well, my late father for one and people like Fela who I knew not just
as a musician, I also knew him as my father’s friend. Femi Kuti is also
a big brother to me, people like Lagbaja, Louis Armstrong, Beyonce, Jay
z to mention a few.
What’s your worst embarrassment on stage?
It was a very long time ago before I even dreamt of writing my songs.
I was performing at a club, Jazz Ville at Onike, Yaba and I didn’t
know all the lyrics of the song. At a point, when I started, I noticed I
was singing rubbish, I had to tell the band to stop. I apologised to
the audience and told them I wanted to start again. I forgot the lyrics
but it was not a concert and it was like a small arrangement then. It
was a bit embarrassing but I got over it, it’s one of those things.
What brings you joy?
My family and then my music. Music always makes me happy and I’m
happiest when I spend time with my family just running around or
playing football or doing something. I love spending time with them
because I am always all over the place, so those few days or weeks I’m
around, I tend to make it memorable.
Your image in many people’s mind is a guy who has a
perfect family life, thriving career and you are seen as a very serious
musician. But you know music attracts a lot of women. How do you handle
female fans?
I have everything I want but nobody is perfect and there is no such
thing as a perfect family. Even Obama and Michelle I am sure, have
arguments and disagreements but that is what makes us human. At the end
of the day, it’s the grace of God. I know you are talking about female
fans but I have been doing this for a very long time and by now I know
what to do and what not to do. I try and make sure I do not create that
opportunity and I do not allow it to get out of hand. Some of them want
to try and be funny but I just tactfully avoid them without offending
them.
What’s the most embarrassing experience you have ever had with a female fan?
I remember one day, a young lady wanted to take a picture with me
and I was walking with my wife. You know when an event just finished,so
you can imagine many people walking in different directions and you are
trying to make your way out of the venue. Then somebody just called me
Darey! Darey!! I want to take a picture with you. The next thing she did
was to push my wife out of the way and she no even send anybody at that
point. Her own was “I want my picture” and it was a bit embarrassing
and my wife understood. She just moved away, you know we deal with all
these things every day.
What should every man try at least once in a life time?
I think every man should at least ride a motorcycle. I’m not talking
about okada or kekenapep. I used to ride a power bike, a fast
motorcycle, but when the family begins to enter the matter, you have to
behave yourself. Once in a while, it’s good for the thrill, just for
the rush. It’s almost like sky diving or bounce jumping. If you have the
liver, then try it and that’s what makes a man.
How romantic are you?
I try o. Romance is about the simple things, it is about doing some
things at the unexpected time. It is not about how big the surprise is,
you do it when she is not expecting it. For instance, you can buy a
bouquet of flowers and go to her office. Maybe you do not normally go
and meet her in her office, you can send it there and you put a very
small note or write a note and put under her pillow, so when she is
looking for something and she sees it, it’s that element of surprise.
Communication is key, so from time to time, you just do some things that
will surprise her, make her feel special. It’s not about how much you
spend really, it’s not about anything fancy like going to an exotic
place, there is no magic about it. It’s just about the moments and how
you spend those moments.
So, as a very romantic guy, do you help your wife to do household chores?
I do everything, I do anything. We have house helps but from time to
time I do everything from tidying up, cleaning this and cleaning that.
Which one of it do you enjoy?
I do not enjoy any of it. It’s the truth, I do not like house chores
but I do have fun sometimes when I do them. It can be fun especially if
you turn it into a game; maybe you involve the children by saying oya!
tidy up after yourself and before you know it, you have done work but
you do not make it seem as if it is work.
As a dad let’s talk about your kids, Tinuke and Femi. Are you the good cop or your wife is the bad cop?
Neither, we are both good and bad cops. When it’s time we whip them into shape if they are naughty.
Do you spank your kids?
From time to time, if they are really naughty, they can get a little
spanking. So, they know they should behave especially, when you have
told them over and over not to be naughty. You know how children can be.